Sometimes, just sometimes, things don’t work out as we would like. This through absolutely no fault of our own.
It could be a mismatch or an environment not best suited for a puppy.
There can be all sort of reasons, including lack of company with people being out at work all day.
In the case of 7-month old French Bulldog Ezra, it’s not lack of company that is the problem. It’s too much. Too many people at times. Too unpredictable. Too noisy.
What puppies need more than anything else is predictability (like children). It makes them feel safe and allows them to learn self-control and to be predictable themselves.
Unpredictable. Too noisy, too much happening.
In Ezra’s case, it’s his exposure to unpredictability and occasional chaos that has led him to biting. It’s the only way he can get any control over things that are simply too much for him.
The family is large and extended. One of the younger children has issues that make him unpredictable and noisy.
The other day Ezra bit him on the lip.
The ten-year-old was taken to A & E.
The boy himself explained the run-up to this and it included noise, people and loud TV which Ezra hates. The dog was already over-aroused. He had jumped onto the floor probably to get away and the child had slid off the sofa onto the floor beside him. The boy had then pushed his face into the little dog’s and stared into his eyes.
His condition means he has a kind of compulsion to do those things he knows will upset Ezra.
So…….BITE
Another family member, a late teenager, had a couple of weeks previously been bitten on the nose quite badly. He said he was doing nothing, but questions revealed a sequence.
The dog will undoubtedly have had high stress levels to start with. The doorbell had rung, making him very excited. He had been chewing bones. He then jumped up on the young man’s lap (why do people always think this means the dog wants to be touched?). The TV may have been too loud. The man had his hand on Ezra’s back.
Then, for seemingly no reason at all, Ezra flew at his face.
Unpredictable? I’m sure there will have been warnings. Possibly Ezra will have frozen. He is now learning the only way to get away from unwanted attention is to bite.
A habit is forming which started with nipping. Each time he attacks it in effect gives him respite so the more of a learned behaviour it becomes – the more likely it is to happen again unless the various criteria that lead to the behaviour are changed.
Dogs need choice – a say in the matter.
Does he want to be touched just now? Does he want to be left alone just now?
In addition to altering these criteria which won’t be easy (creating calm, choice and predictability) the situation needs to be safety-managed.
A muzzle is good as a safety thing in emergency, but using it so that people can be free to do as they like around Ezra would be very wrong.
Since speaking to me on the phone the other day when Ezra had bitten the boy, the lady has had the pup in a crate in the dining room when the younger kids are about. She will be locking the doors to the room when she’s not in there – Ezra safely shut away with plenty to do.
(This sounds like Ezra is now shut away all the time but that isn’t the case. They are managing to juggle things so that he has plenty of attention and outings).
Dedication, kindness and patience.
The lady is treating Ezra with the same dedication, kindness and patience she treats all the family which includes several other young people she has taken under her wing.
The younger family members will be changing their own behaviour where possible as will the older ones. We are looking at ways of using clicker and food to create a more useful relationship between Ezra and the boy.
It may be at the end of the day that they aren’t the right home for Ezra. This happens. The young people are too unpredictable.
They will know that they’ve not left any stone unturned. Where you can’t fully control the humans and have to rely solely upon management there is always the risk that, in an unguarded moment, management falls down. A door can be left unlocked.
At the end of the day these kind people will be making the right decision for both Ezra and their family.
I received this email out of the blue nine months later: Life is good we have had a long journey with **** & Ezra but we have found some compromise & middle ground. Zones, gates, time out for all & listening to the ladder of communication mean that we are living together peaceful most of the time. Thank you for all your help to find a solution that has enabled us to care for everyone safely & has meant that Ezra can remain with us.
