Gorilla takes his Human for his daily walk.
The Prong Collar around Human’s neck is attached to a heavy chain. The Gorilla holds the heavy chain tightly in his Big Hairy Hand.
Human knows there are Lions about although he can’t yet see one. He thinks, if I walk QUICKLY we will get out of here sooner and he Strains on the Chain.
Pulling ahead Hurts his Throat.
Gorilla Yanks him back and SHOUTS at him. He holds Human Tightly beside him, tightly next to his Big Hairy Leg.
Human is now so scared he barely feels the prongs piercing his neck.
Human’s eyes dart to the Right for Lions; Human’s eyes dart to the Left looking for Lions; Human struggles to turn his head to look Behind for Lions.
Then a stick snaps somewhere. Human JUMPS.
There is a Lion lurking somewhere.
Human feels Very UNSAFE. He’s Very Scared.
Then in the distance……from the undergrowth……coming towards them……….emerges a…………………….LION.
Human is TRAPPED.
He can’t Run. He can’t Hide.
THE LION IS GETTING CLOSER……….and the Gorilla just keeps on walking! The Chain tightens.
In Fear for his Life, Human Yells and Screams, GO AWAY, GO AWAY, GO AWAY OR I WILL KILL YOU, whereupon Gorilla makes Loud Angry Noises and KICKS Human with his Big Hairy Foot.
Then he Grabs Human by his Hair with his Big Hairy Hand and Forces him to his Knees.
He holds him there.
Human waits for the Lion to POUNCE.
He holds his breath. He freezes………
This time Lion merely Sniffs him and walks on.
Another time Human knows he may not be so lucky. Another time there may be Two Lions, or Three Lions. There may be Lions in front and Lions behind as well.
Anyway, the next day Gorilla puts a GAG over Human’s mouth before they enter the Lion Park.
That will fix him now, thinks Gorilla.
Thus ends the Parable of the Gorilla and the Human in the Lion Park.
Off to the dog park?
Boris is reactive to other dogs. He snarls and lunges at other dogs. He wears a prong collar. You hold him tight.
See the parallel?
It is especially pertinent for dogs like Boris who display signs of fear, anxiety or aggression when placed in the often overwhelming and threatening (in the dog’s eyes) context of a dog park. He’s surrounded by unfamiliar dogs and their sometimes unwitting owners.
Prong collars, choke chains, rough handling, force and other aversive methods when a dog is in a situation he perceives as scary (whether or not he really is in danger is irrelevant — he perceives it as danger), is rather how they themselves might feel if they were the human in the parable.
Gaining some insight into how Boris might be feeling can be a wake-up for those of us with our dog-reactive dogs.
We may label our dog ‘aggressive’ and resort to using force. Force makes matters even worse. Without realising it, we may be forcing Boris into having no other option but to behave aggressively in self-defence. He may even be pushed, in his frenzy, to redirect his frustration/fear/anger onto them.
Forcing the dog into a situation he can’t cope with is very damaging to the human-dog relationship. Shouldn’t a dog be able to trust the person who is restricting his freedom by having him on a leash?
Sadly many people still may not know there are other options. They may have been influenced by ‘quick fix’ methods seen on TV or the internet. It’s a matter of education.
Not only is force cruel, it’s inefficient.