The baby is held high, out of his reach, and this merely makes Danny want to jump up to get to him. This then leads to Danny being told off and pushed away. Although he shows no aggression at all, only fascination and maybe a little anxiety, the baby’s mother in particular is understandably anxious.
To banish their precious dog?
This is quite a common a situation that I go to from time to time, that of a dog and baby and particularly that of grandparents. The grandparents have a dog and their son or daughter is understandably anxious about bringing their baby to visit.
The grandparents are torn between banishing their beloved dog which seems like betrayal (he’s a family member after all) or being less involved with their new grandchild. Danny sleeps in the couple’s bedroom and he is never far from their side. They can’t simply banish him and nor would they want to.
A dog den
I have four dogs and have had four young grandchildren myself in the past few years. It was easier because of the way I arrange my environment. My dogs are used to being behind a barrier for periods of time (with five dogs and just one large room I find a ‘dog den’ is necessary). I simply kept dogs and baby separate unless under close supervision. I let them in one dog at a time and only if the dog was relaxed and easy with this.
My dogs gradually simply accepted the babies and toddlers from a safe place and nobody had to be anxious.
8-year-old Springer Spaniel Danny is more sensitive than one might think. You can see that having his photo taken, above left, made him uneasy. He is very good with children, but babies are something he’s not used to. If his people are showing anxiety too, that will be adding to his unease.
Associating baby with good things
This is another situation where the environment needs to be managed while the work is done. A gate is needed and Danny gradually introduced to a place behind it where good things happen – food and toys.
If baby is one side of the gate and Danny the other, everyone can relax. Danny can then be desensitised. When Danny is in the same room, he should be on a long loose lead. He must not pick up on any anxiety.
Every sign of relaxing, looking away from the baby or settling should be rewarded. If the baby moves or makes a noise, Danny should be fed. The baby should be associated with only good things. Every small indication of calm from Danny should be reinforced.
In order to prepare him, Danny should be introduced to short times the other side of the gate for several days before the baby next comes, so the two aren’t associated in his mind. Then, instead of coming just once a week for maybe a day, for a while the baby should be brought several times a week for a short visit so as not to put too much stress on Danny.
Given more meetings the baby should become less of a novelty.